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Learn to Be Assertive In a Positive Way

You could break this down into four stages

1. Change the way you react to situations:

You need to change the way in which you see assertive behaviour. Work on developing a belief system which allows you to assert yourself. This may take some work. It means:

• Giving yourself permission to be angry
• Learning to say “No”
• Feeling it is OK to ask for help
• Not beating yourself up when you make mistakes

Basically it is all about building self confidence and self esteem. Learning to be assertive means working in these areas too.

2. Learn some Assertiveness Skills.

You could develop your assertiveness skills through attending our Assertiveness Training Course.

3. Use good communication skills

Learn to use your body language and control your feelings and reactions.

• Maintain direct eye contact
• Keep your posture open and relaxed
• Be sure your facial expression agrees with the message
• Keep a level, well-modulated tone of voice
• Select an appropriate time to be assertive

4. Practice

You won’t learn how to become a more assertive person just by reading, you will need to practice. You can practice on your friends and family, choose someone understanding and it is best to tell them what you are doing first! Ask for feedback on how you’re doing. In the long run, communicating honestly can help your relationships.

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4. Tips for Being More Assertive
5. Being Assertive can make you happy!

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